Boundaries Are Necessary
Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.”
– Gerard Manley Hopkins
Boundaries are an integral part of healthy relationships because they help to maintain a balance between you and your partner. Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. Without boundaries, we feel depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Whether it’s in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries may lead to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout.
Some benefits of setting boundaries –
When we communicate about our boundaries, we are able to build relationships where we, and others, feel heard. We can offer empathy and help more authentically when we honour our own boundaries and limits while doing so.
Resentment can increase when boundaries are violated. The setting of boundaries can help us avoid resentment in a relationship.
Your needs get met
If you don’t set boundaries or tell people about your needs, you can’t expect people to be aware of those things. By setting a boundary we’re ensuring that the other person know what we need and they don’t have to guess.
Good for your mental health
If you don’t set boundaries, it is easy for ordinary things to become draining to the point of exhaustion and burnout.
Setting boundaries isn’t always comfortable and people may push back if you say NO to some things or try communicating your needs more clearly. That doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. It may just mean that you are giving yourself a much-deserved priority.