When someone you love has experienced the loss of a child, it’s hard on everyone.
They are engulfed in a sea of unbearable pain and grief and sorrow while you may be struggling to stand beside them, wondering what to say, what to do, and what they need.
You love them dearly, but you don’t really know what they are going through and you don’t know what to do.
Maybe you’re grieving too.
Maybe you’re suffering as you witness their suffering.
Maybe you feel helpless.
Maybe you find yourself saying all the wrong things because you don’t know what else to say.
Maybe you want to love them through this, but no one taught you how to do that.
Most of us don’t really know how to navigate this thing called grief. They don’t teach Grief 101 in high school (although, perhaps they should!).
In an ideal world, your heartbroken loved one would be able to say, “Here, this is what I need. This is how you can help me.”
Unfortunately, that’s generally not how it works.
They have been crushed by a devastating loss and, chances are, they’re giving everything they have to simply get out of bed in the morning.
Trying to articulate what they need and what kind of support they want probably feels next to impossible.